How To Correct Bad Manners Without Shaming [The Question]

Patch polled readers on whether it’s ever OK to correct someone’s bad manners, and the answers ranged from “absolutely, but privately” to “not my problem unless you’re blowing smoke in my face.” The consensus, more or less: skip the public callout, pick your moment, and maybe lead with an “I statement” rather than a lecture on which fork to use.